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E-NewsMay 2009 Volume 19 |
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Dear E-News Subscriber, Hi Everyone! Well it's been a big month for us! The audio book of Take Me to Truth will be available for download as mp3 files from our website in May. You will be able to download one or more chapters at a time or the whole book and listen to us read each chapter as it was written. 11 hours of our voices! That should help you sleep and well worth the investment! |
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We also managed to fit in amazing workshops in Boston, MA and Victoria, BC, Canada. Here's our miraculous group in BC pictured below. |
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Nouk is going to take a month break now to continue writing our second book while Tomas heads off to Europe for the Dutch launch of De Weg Naar Waarheid (Take Me to Truth) published by Synthese, While there he will also conduct a number of workshops in Belgium and Holland. |
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More News! We have just completed a 6 CD Audio Learning Program of our in depth workshop for Sounds True. Entitled The Miracle of Trust, you can order it from www.soundstrue.com in the Fall 2009.
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Coming this Fall 2009!The Miracle of TrustOur 6 CD ProgramYou can order it in the FallFrom Sounds True |
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Silvana's Workshop Updates!Here's what one participant said this month - "As I continue to work with the tools you have offered in the workshop, I will now be more in a position of remembering I am cause and no longer at the mercy of effect. The demolition derby continues to undoing the ego. Thank you for the honestly open and humorous presentation." |
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So, please contact me if you’re interested in bringing Nouk and Tomas to your city. You can reach me at: |
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Discover the Secret to Indestructible Relationships Nouk and Tomas have survived the birth of their relationship in '84, the birth of their daughter in '88, the death of their marriage in '99 and the re-birth of Love thereafter! Come along and discover the secret to indestructible relationships in this all-day workshop. Contact: The Relaxation Centre, relaxcentreofqld@powerup.com.au PH: (07) 3856 3733 Ready to breakthrough the illusion and discover limitless Love?Spend several profound days undoing the only block to the awareness of Perfect Love. Through a mix of delivery, reflection, journaling, experiential exercises, much laughter, and discussion, you will learn to recognize the extent of the ego's role in your conscious and unconscious mind and how to initiate your release from the only barrier to consistent peace, love and happiness. If you're done with seeking, suffering and pain, then you will find Truth at this workshop. May 15th - 17th - (3 day workshop) June 1st - 5th - (5 day workshop) June 19th - 24th - (5 day workshop) July 17th - 19th - (2 1/2 day workshop) Australia Holland, Belgium, Australia, Canada and the UK - One day workshopsFor more information, log onto www.takemetotruth.com/seminars.html |
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Letting Go of Judgments While ParentingBy Sally PattonWhen my guides lead me in Kindness |
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I love this quote. It expresses how I feel about turning over my physical life journey to the Holy Spirit to lead me in kindness; trusting that as I follow lightly I will not leave any permanent foot prints in this dream to make it real. There is a lot to learn in this spiritual classroom called parenting, especially parenting a child which the world sees as defective. How many of us get stuck in the past, grieving over wrongs, blaming our unhappiness on our parents, our children, other people, our past failures, and our failed opportunities? How many times have we feared what the future may bring for our labelled children when the past has been such a struggle? How many times have we drowned out that still small voice within, our inner guide, our higher self with thoughts of why me when our labelled child demands so much attention or when we are consumed with just getting through the day? It was while I was researching information about alternative programs for different disabilities for my book on welcoming children with special needs into faith communities, that I discovered the Option Institute in western Massachusetts. Not only did I learn about a wonderful program for children within the autism spectrum, I found a place for my own spiritual growth. The program for children is called the Son-Rise Program of the Autism Treatment Center of America. The description on the website captured my attention and I immediately wanted to visit. "This unique treatment program, based on an attitude of love and acceptance, is profoundly gentle, non-judgmental and respectful of the child's world and creates maximum opportunity for growth." www.option.org I highly recommend it for Course students who are looking for another way to parent their child within the autism spectrum or with any type of label. In order to visit the Son-Rise Program I took a week long workshop at the Option Institute which then led to attending their eight week summer course at the time called "Living the Dream." This was a life changing experience which to this day continues to provide the ideas and tools I use to question any upsetting event in order to discover the beliefs that take me out of joy. For eight weeks I deconstructed my ego. I bounced between fear and love. The fear showed itself primarily as anger, shame, defensiveness, and sadness. Much of my work focused on my sadness about Tyler's struggles. This is where I learned the gift of a question. My interpretation of the basic teachings of the Option Institute has provided an enduring structure for understanding the lessons in my spiritual classroom. The Option teachings are compatible with Course teachings. A few examples are: there is no right, wrong, good or bad; every event is neutral; it is only our beliefs which trigger a response to the event; and we always have a choice to be happy or unhappy. There was a period in my life when every time I talked about my son, Tyler, I would cry. He is a right brained kid in a left brained world. Tyler is a different learner, struggles to read, and processes information differently than what society considers as "normal". I got so caught up in his story, worrying about what to do and worrying about his future that I forgot to stay in presence. The ego had completely taken over my journey. By using the Option dialogue process, it took a lot of examination of my beliefs to realize I had a core belief that I could not change people's treatment of Tyler and other children we label unless they saw the sadness and the heartbreak. I finally realized that this was not what I wanted to show the world. I wanted people to know the joy, the wonder, and the miracle that is Tyler and all our labelled children, not the sadness and the struggle. Once I understood the underlying belief which was keeping me in sadness, I was finally able to drop it as not useful. When I can let go of the past as having any power to affect me, I can accept life as it is and see every event as a way to deepen my love. I can embrace this incredible opportunity to forgive, to learn to trust, to love fully and completely without judgment, to see all adults and children as innocent and perfect in God's eyes. Eventually through questioning my beliefs I arrived at a place of calm that stayed even when Tyler slid into deep depression and started cutting at age 17. I had finally learned and was able to accept totally and completely not to take on my son's pain. If we take on our children's pain or struggle then what you have are two miserable people instead of one. We are saying to our children that their pain is more important than the truth of who they are which is love. The best gift I could give my son at the time was to parent from a place of peace with an unshakable faith and trust that he would get through this with his spiritual self intact, no matter the outcome. I was able to maintain this calm even when he cut the words "help me" into his arm. And he did get through it and regained his radiance. Recently a friend of Tyler's died from a combination of alcohol and drugs in Laos, Asia far from his home. Jack was a high energy child always testing boundaries, a different learner, warm hearted, highly creative, curious, and a risk taker. Jack also struggled with depression. Over Jack's short life I admired the love, flexibility and humor maintained by Jack's parents in relation to their son. By the time Jack died at age 21 he had visited more that 40 countries on five continents. His love for excitement and his battle with depression led him to risky behavior and his death. There are some people who would question Jack's parents for allowing him to follow his dream of exploration at such a young age, especially given his tendency toward risky behavior. It takes tremendous courage to trust and allow your child to follow their own path. On the level of form in this physical world his death feels sad and hard. On the level of content in spirit, we know that Jack's life is part of the whole process toward forgiveness of this illusory world. We can not begin to understand the forgiveness lessons for Jack and his family. We can only trust that each and every one of us is part of the whole. We can only trust the Holy Spirit's plan for all of us. Every moment is a perfect time to let go of the past, renew and parent from the stately calm within. I wish for everyone the will to connect with our guides, the Holy Spirit, our higher self to stay the course. Standing in your truth and allowing others to stand in theirs is important. Like Tyler and Jack, our children have their own path to truth; we can not presume to know what it is. All we can do is support and create an environment that allows the discovery of their truth. Not judging our children's path comes from not judging ourselves. This, above all else, feels the most difficult, not judging someone else's path, especially when it feels harmful or alien to our beliefs. "Learning to walk lightly" means letting go of judgments. When we let go of judgments we leave no foot prints in this dream. We do not make the mistake of separation real. Trust means letting go of our ego and releasing to a higher purpose we can not begin to comprehend. Trusting our children will find and stand in truth at times takes immense courage, especially as with Jack it led to death at a young age. Trust and letting go of judgments and forgiving is what allows God's love to flow through us. In the end, this is the only way to get through the bad times to joy and inner peace. And we must be willing to do it over and over again. Inner peace comes from letting go, learning to walk lightly and leave no foot prints. Footnote: Sally Patton is writing a wonderfully helpful book aimed at transforming the perception and relationships of parents with special needs children; in fact this book will help any parent who is experiencing conflict with their children. Her teachings are practical and based on A Course in Miracles principles. Sally Patton's website is Embracing the Spirit of the Child, www.EmbraceChildSpirit.org You can contact her by email: sally@embracechildspirit.org or call her on 781-570-2043. Cell 617-480-4432 (USA) |
A Crash Course in Miracles with Philip UrsoOn the 5th April we recorded a podcast with our friend Philip Urso, his wife Lisa and a few friends. The subject soon turned to unconditional love, parenting and what to do when your child is self harming. It is one of the most powerful podcasts we've listened to and we encourage you to listen and pass this on to any parents having a hard time of it right now. The link is http://removebarriers.libsyn.com Look for EPISODE # 24 |
An Instrument of Joy from Sally DubelIt's A Fun Game!ERATFI! (Everyone's Right, Appreciate Them For It) is a free game I created, and is another step toward living in the world more peacefully. You can download the game at www.lovingthingsjournal.com. Recently, during a radio interview, the host asked me about the section in the Loving Things Journal (www.lovingthingsjournal.com) about raising children to make everyone right. I explained that in the beginning it was an experiment that I was intrigued with. I had read that if you could raise one generation of children with unconditional love, you would eradicate violence. In the world we live in, to be right, ultimately means making someone else wrong. According to Take Me to Truth, Undoing the Ego: "Overlooking error in others is the most powerful transformation gift, which has the potential to teach Love in its purest form. It does this by removing the blocks to the awareness of Love's presence. At the core of each and ever human being is the desire to be loved unconditionally." It works this way: in a work, school or home situation, the ego-self always urges you to see yourself as right. By looking at the world this way, a loss of peace naturally occurs and it always makes someone else wrong, or inferior. Most of us are addicted to being right, at any cost. As you begin breaking this down through Eratfi!, the world is now approached with a newfound perspective that you may not even realized exists. For more information regarding a practical and fun application to retrain yourself and your children to a lifelong habit of making kind and loving choices, please see the Loving Things Journal here. Your family will learn naturally, to make paying it forward and random acts of kindness, a part of their daily lives. Could this be the tool that ends bullying? SPECIAL OFFER FOR RECIPIENTS OF THE TMTT NEWSLETTER:If you would like to order the Loving Things Journal, please contact me at Saldubel@msn.com and I will send you a code to order the e-version for only $4.95!!! Thank you so much, |
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